There are certain words which in context, whatever the intent, are universally interpreted in unambiguously negative ways.

Today I saw a profile in which the man had described himself as “tactile”. I’m sure he thinks that suggests he’s warm and friendly, but a straw poll of women in my immediate vicinity makes it clear it suggests to them he’s an octo-pervert who needs mace, restraint and therapy.

More seriously, if there’s an appropriate time for physical contact on a date you’ll know. There’s no point in pointing out it’s something you desire. You only suggest you’re likely to lunge inappropriately and make what should be organic opportunities to get close to someone awkward and tense.

When it comes to meeting new people, certain principles are universally true. If you stand out and are sincere (even if that’s sincerely funny or self-absorbed) you’re going to make an impression and that’s most of what’s needed to start a relationship.

Standing out online is harder than it is in person. You can post an amazing photo, but many people will assume it’s not real. You can write a brilliant profile, but then have to rely on people taking the time to read it. So what other options do you have?

If you’re talented you can do what Brian did and, though the content might be considered a little… (what’s the word… pathetic?) the execution is stunning and smart and makes brilliant use of Craigslists formlessness.

I bet he’s got more offers than he knows what to do with.

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It’s easy to forget that Craigslist allows for advanced page designs—as long as you have the coding skills to wrangle their comically unfriendly user interface (see all those poor people who can’t even inert a line break).

This woman has put the effort in and I bet it’s yielded significant dating dividends. Geekiness pays off again.

Sturdy chassis, lightly used (but highly driven) seeks new prospects.