Make yourself look bad enough to date
The Times has a piece about self deprecation which has interesting implications for online dating.
It suggests that self-depreciating comments are attractive when they’re obviously untrue. I.e. If you say “I must look terrible”, when you don’t, you’re drawing attention to your good looks and that makes you seem more attractive.
Online it’s hard to know someone’s attractive (this doesn’t apply to Vooji which is based around video profiles) so self-depreciation won’t work in a positive way unless you can clearly show that self-depreciating comments are act of humility, not statements of fact.
The challenge then becomes finding something to show off about which you can deride. That’s pretty much the English national character. No wonder I used to do so well online…
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