East Coaster Trying to Figure This West Coast Thing Out – 23 (MsF)
So after many months, I’ve finally accepted that the chances of me finding a cool, single girl to hang out with are nil where I work. Why you ask? I work for NASA and its all dudes. FML.
Also… I don’t have a car… (But I rent one every other weekend so I’m transiently mobile)
And I can’t dance…
Figured that would make a few people hit the back button, but if you’re still reading, thank you!
So, I’m a huge science nerd (and love being one) and I’m looking for someone who’s laid back but passionate about living life, loves traveling and trying new things. I really enjoy live music, art shows, and tons of weird cultural stuff, but in no way am a hipster. I’m not looking for an LTR because I’ll only be out here till the end of June, but have no qualms about short term, and would be totally fine with just platonic. I’m pretty laid back and open minded and like meeting people who have different life paths and philosophies then I do, so I’m not necessarily looking for another science geek, but of course you have to be ok with me being one…
I love spirited conversations (some people call them arguments, who knew?) and I’m not looking for a girl who’s waiting for some guy to come along and make her whole, I’m pretty confidant with myself and I hope you are too.
Anyways, I just noticed this was all over the place, but if anything you read made you go “hmm..” then shoot me an email and a clear pic (just to weed out women who could be my mother and creeps) and we hopefully we can hang out.
Oh, and also, I’m 6′1″, half Cuban and half Irish, and have green eyes.
Winner, winner, chicken dinner! This gent’s a force to be reckoned with.
His answer to the obvious question (“What’s a nice guy like you…?”): “I work at NASA and it’s all dudes,” is simultaneously boastful, interesting and impressive. The “FML” capper’s a nice touch and stops him from sounding unwittingly pompous.
Being upfront about not having a car saves time, and mentioning he’s a nerd is both redundant (he works at NASA) and valid because he actually qualifies (every ass now claims to be a nerd, it’s shorthand for ‘I think I’m smart and sensitive’). Wisely he doesn’t exclude anyone while describing what he’s looking for. Cute women can be picky upfront online because they get 10 responses for every one a guy sees. Men have to be inclusive.
His supplemental photos are excellent too. This is guaranteed to raise an “Ahhh.”
And who hasn’t wanted to date a stock-photo before?
The last line about his exotic heritage is great. One more way to say there’s more to him than meets the eye.
Suggested improvements:
Not everyone knows what FML stands for so be prepared to answer questions from the curious (and lazy).
Re-word the section dealing with the type of relationships you’re open to. To a lot of women the ‘term’ of a ’short-term relationship’ is assumed to be one-night, and thus to be avoided. If you just want to meet people and see where it leads say that instead of listing potential scenarios. It’ll sound relaxed instead of desperate.
The ‘clear pic’ requested is redundant. Though lots of people send ‘arty’ blurs but it’s easier to ask for something specific (“Send me a picture of you smiling/laughing/having fun”) than writing you’ll filter responses by photo for creeps. What does a female creep look like? Anything that may dissuade a response is bad. Don’t force people to hesitate before writing back.
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